Choosing Peace…
Greeting dear friends & fellow navigators, & welcome to my world today. You know, there are days
when I see the world all rushing by in one direction. Everyone seems to be chasing dreams or something. There is always another headline, another celebration, another event people insist you
must be part of. Each one packaged as if missing it would mean missing the future itself.
Yet, more often than not, I find myself stepping back & quietly telling myself, “It is not part of my
plan.” This does not mean I have not jumped into things out of the fear of missing out. I have. I have signed up for the occasional trend, & clicked “register” because I felt left behind. I am only human. Curiosity pulls at me. The FOMO is real, & sometimes, I do follow it.
Over time, not everything pulls me the way it used to. I have started to ask; “Do I really want this, or
do I just want to not be left out?” This question, more than anything, has helped me draw a
boundary. Not to shut the world out, but to make space for my own rhythm.
I used to think this meant I was missing something. Maybe I was not doing enough, because I was
not present in those chambers of popularity, I would regret it someday. However, I have come to
realize missing out is only real if what you are missing was ever truly meant for you. This endless race to be everywhere, to belong to everything, was never mine to begin with.
Is the center of the crowd simply there because it is where everyone gathers? I have often been
more curious about the corners. The soft edges where stories unfold more slowly but with far more honesty. This is where you hear the silence between words, where you feel meaning in the stillness. Life does not always need to shout. Sometimes it chooses to whisper, & I want to learn how to listen.
I do not want to chase things just because others are running toward them. I want to walk at my
own pace. Sometimes this means walking alone. Sometimes, there might be only one or two others beside me, moving in quiet agreement. I do not want to say yes to every opportunity to appear, no matter how golden it may seem.
Some doors lead to rooms never built for me. Not because those places are wrong, but because
they do not help me grow in the way I was meant to. For me, growth needs to be honest. It needs
to be real. Not just impressive.
Picture a tree in a forest. The tallest one often catches the light first. It stands out. But deeper in the shade, there is a smaller tree. It spreads its roots wide, quietly building strength. No one stops to admire it. But this tree is preparing to withstand the fiercest storm. This is how I want to grow. Slowly. Silently. Purposefully. Not for applause, but for resilience.
I have seen people bend themselves just to fit into places & never recognize their true selves, trying to keep up. Over time, their spark dims. I do not want to live this way. I will not run toward
something just because it looks warm from afar. I would rather wait for the warmth to feel like
home, even if I have to sit in the dark for a while.
My plan does not come with spotlights. It is not curated for attention. It is shaped by honest
conversations, stillness, & reflection. It is shaped by choosing who I want to be, not what I want to
be seen doing. I want to move toward a life where I can simply say, “This is not for me,” & feel
peace in the choice made. Not pride. Not superiority. Just peace.
So no, I do not feel bad for missing out. I do not feel a void when I turn down things others
celebrate. Every time I walk away from something, I am walking toward something which does fit. I am not building a life to look impressive from the outside. I am building a life to feel right on the
inside.
You are not behind, rather simply on a different path. It may not be loud. It may not be quick. But it
is yours. You do not need the whole world to see you. You only need to keep seeing yourself with
clarity & compassion. This is enough, it has always been enough. Because we were not made to
keep up, rather, to grow into something real.
Just few observations again dear friends, & provide an opinion in my world. Thank you for stopping
by, I appreciate your being here. If my journey encourages you also, all is well with my soul.
Looking forward to next week; this is Kenn Butler in Paradise, Nelson with best wishes.
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