Heart & Soul…
Greeting dear friends & fellow navigators, & welcome to my world this week. Sometimes our soul takes too much time to recognise what the heart has been trying to say for years. Not because you are weak, or unaware. But because some truths are difficult to accept when they involve your own pain.
I think many of us spend years convincing ourselves we are okay. We continue with life normally. We respond to messages, laugh while talking, fulfil our duties, & appear for everybody. However, all these things make the outside look perfect, but there is some sort of heaviness inside we cannot describe.
I suspect maybe this is the heart speaking quietly. The heart usually knows first. It knows when something is hurting us. It knows when we are staying in places no longer feeling peaceful. It knows when we are giving too much of ourselves to people who barely notice. But the soul takes longer to accept it, because acceptance changes everything.
Once you truly recognize a truth, you cannot return to pretending anymore. There was a time in my life when I kept telling myself, “It’s fine,” even when it was not. I ignored exhaustion. I stayed silent about things hurting me. I kept trying to understand people who never tried to understand me back. Somewhere inside, I knew I was unhappy, but I was not ready to fully admit it yet.
Looking back now, I realize my heart already understood everything. My soul was simply taking more time to catch up. I think this happens because we become used to surviving. We adjust ourselves so much for others we stop listening to our own feelings. We tolerate things because we do not want conflict. We hope people change, things improve, & someday everything will finally be okay.
There are also times when we feel tired of waiting, & slowly, without even noticing, you begin losing parts of yourself. You stop expressing your feelings honestly. You hide your sadness behind “I’m okay.” You become emotionally tired, even around people.
The strange thing is healing does not always arrive loudly. Sometimes it begins very quietly. You start enjoying your own company a little more. You stop explaining yourself so much. You begin craving peace instead of attention. Small things once felt normal, suddenly feel heavy.
This is often the moment when the soul finally begins recognizing what the heart has known for a long time. I used to think growth would make me feel strong & confident. But honestly, growth often feels emotional. It feels like realizing certain things hurt you more than you admitted. It feels like the understanding being “used to pain” does not mean you deserve it.
And this realization changes something inside you. Not all at once, but slowly.
You begin treating yourself more gently. You stop blaming yourself for every broken relationship. You stop chasing people who only remember you when it is convenient. You stop forcing yourself to stay where your heart constantly feels unwanted, & little by little, peace starts entering your life again.
Not perfect happiness. Not a life without sadness. Just peace. The kind where your mind feels quieter. The kind where silence no longer feels lonely. The kind where you finally feel safe being yourself without pretending all the time.
I think many people are still carrying truths they have not fully accepted yet. Some are still waiting for closure. Some are still hoping certain people will become softer. Some are still trying to convince themselves ~ what hurt them “was not a big deal.”
But pain does not disappear just because we ignore it. Sometimes the soul simply needs time to finally admit what the heart has been whispering for years. You were hurt. You were tired & you deserved softer love, too.
Maybe healing begins the moment you stop running from this truth.
Just few observations again dear friends & provide an opinion in my world. Thank you for stopping by, I appreciate your being here. If my journey encourages you also, all is well with my soul. Looking forward to next week; this is Kenn Butler in Paradise, Nelson with best wishes.
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